Becoming We: A Workshop Series
These workshops are built upon the Becoming We Framework. They are designed to be experienced in community, with people you are already in relationship with. The Map is the recommended starting point, but engagements are designed around the group's specific needs and existing awareness. If you are ready to bring this work to your group, keep reading to learn how. If you are looking for individual support, coaching may be a better place to start.
Come as you are. The work will meet you there.
The Map
Each of us has a pattern. A familiar lens through which we think, feel, and act. The challenge is that we tend to return to it again and again, as if it were the only option available. And because we're living inside it, we often don't realize how much of the map we aren't seeing.
In this workshop, we zoom out. We lay the whole map on the table, locate where you naturally land on it, and begin to see your patterns with curiosity rather than judgement. Not as a flaw to fix, but as a starting point to expand from.
You can't navigate differently until you know the terrain you're starting from.
The Pause
We don't usually notice our patterns while they're happening. Most of the time we operate on automatic default. The gap between knowing our pattern and catching the loop in real time is a learnable skill.
In this workshop, we practice slowing down. We develop the capacity to observe our patterns as they unfold, and create just enough space to pause before responding. That pause, even a small one, changes everything.
Neuroscience tells us that every time we interrupt the loop and choose differently, we are literally creating new pathways in the brain. The pause is not just a moment of awareness. It is the mechanism by which change actually happens.
The loop ends where the pause begins.
New Ground
By now you have a map. You know your patterns, and you are beginning to catch them as they unfold. But that's only half the journey. Now there's a new path to walk.
In this workshop, you will meet your guides, the Traits of Essence. These qualities already exist inside you, but most people just haven't been introduced. Here, we change that.
Through a guided inner practice, you will meet your Traits of Essence as Characters, each one with its own distinct quality and presence. Think of them as the fullest range of your capacity, the parts of you that carry wisdom, steadiness, creativity, and connection.
This is not a personality test. It is not analysis or assessment. It is a structured practice, so that when the old patterns want to run the show, you have somewhere else to turn.
Part One is the meeting. Part Two, which follows after time for reflection, is learning to work with your Characters intentionally, building new habits you can bring directly back into your work and relationships.
New ground isn't found by thinking harder. It's found by living from more than one story.
From I to We
The Map, The Pause, and New Ground are also available as a complete series for groups who want to commit to the full journey together.
Why This Works
Individual work matters. Reading, reflection, therapy, and coaching all have real value. They help us understand our patterns, build self awareness, and develop the capacity to respond differently.
But there is a gap that individual work alone cannot fill.
Our patterns don't live in isolation. They live in relationship. In the moment a colleague challenges our idea, a board member questions our decision, or a friend says something that lands wrong. That's where the real work is.
When a group does this work together, whether a leadership team, a nonprofit board, a faith community, or a circle of friends, something becomes possible that isolated inner work simply cannot offer. The context is real. The relationships are real. And the people sitting across from you today will be sitting across from you tomorrow, which creates a built in accountability that no amount of private reflection can replicate.
This is not therapy. It is not a retreat you attend and leave behind. It is practice where it matters most, with the people in your circle.
That is why it works.
Becoming a Host
Every workshop begins with a Host. A Host is the person who sees the opportunity, believes in the work, and takes responsibility for bringing it to their group. They are not just an organizer. They are a partner in the process.
Hosting doesn't require any prior experience with this work, just a willingness to show up alongside your group, not above it.
Before any workshop begins, we meet and you share your knowledge about the group — its culture, its existing norms, and anything about the relationships within it that would be helpful to know.
Workshops require a minimum of 5 participants and are available in person or virtually. A half day is the most common format, though sessions can be structured progressively across multiple shorter meetings. We'll figure out what works best together.
The best workshops begin with one person willing to open the door.
Ready to Begin?
Every group is different. The size, the context, the history, and the readiness all shape what the work looks like. The best next step is a conversation.
Reach out and let's talk about what's right for your group.
Not sure workshops are the right fit? Individual support is available through coaching.
